Not having to pick up no matter what, has felt like the theme of the last few meetings I have been to.
Yesterday in a meeting, the chair shared how he has walked through so much in recovery, including the death of his 29 year old son at 13 years sober. He said that, although it was one of the most painful experiences of his life and the urge to escape was overwhelming, he was at a meeting 500 miles from home, six hours later. And what do you know, he heard exactly what he needed to hear. He ran into a man that had lost his daughter at 9 years sober. He was celebrating 9 months that day. What he shared was simple but profound, 'When I came to, my daughter was still dead. It changed nothing.'. All the feelings were still there waiting for him, but were now compounded by guilt and shame and all the wreckage to clean up.
I felt compelled to share this story at the meeting I went to tonight after someone shared the pain she was experiencing as a result of a friend's suicide over the weekend. Today she was celebrating 13 years clean and as much as she wanted to run, she had not.
What I know from my own experience is life is going to continue to happen. For me...divorce, loss of my job and my home, loss of love, severe depression, difficult people, places and things. Nowhere is it promised to be perfect. What is promised is that I will have a new way to get through it, sometimes gracefully, sometimes not, but through it none the less. I don't have to pick up NO MATTER WHAT!! And the great thing is, if I use the tools I have been blessed to learn in this program, I can have peace amongst the storm. What a gift!!