Right now, in this moment, I am not feeling it. I am not feeling connected...not at all, not one bit. Kids are fighting. Money SUCKS! Love hurts. And, I am stuck in this gigantic pity pot!!
What I do know from experience is that I can sit in this shit and spin out of control and ultimately cause some sort of wreckage that I will have to clean up...or, I can do something to get myself out of it. I am always afraid to try to do the things that I know have worked in the past because I am so scared that they won't work this time and I won't find peace. I am terrified that if they don't work, it will destroy my faith in the process. I don't know why I still cling to the belief that I am that fragile. Things that I am talking about are writing about it, talking about it and praying about it. I know in the past, it gets me to a point to turn it, whatever it is, over to the care of God as I understand God, but I am always afraid to do it.
What if it doesn't work this time, then what? I will have to drink, that's what! If I just hold on to it, I won't be disappointed and I, and all of my self will, will figure a way out of it. Or, this is too big, even for my God to handle!! (All my stupid self talk)
When I first started trying this I did it with urges to drink. Wanting to drink so bad. Deciding to drink. Driving up to the liquor store.. I would sit out front with every intention of doing it, saying, "fuck this and fuck AA!" For some reason, every time, I paused to say a little dare prayer to my God..."I'm gonna do it!! But, if you want to help, be my guest."
Once I went into the store, went up to the guy behind the counter and said I wanted cigarettes. The next thing out of my mouth was going to be, "and some vanilla Absolute". Before I could say that next part he said, "I quit smoking 20 years ago. I quit drinking 30 years ago" In my mind, I was like, "FUCK!! Why, why, why, are you telling me this??" I was able to say however, "Wow, I have like 6 months" and walk out with just the smokes. Another time, same dare prayer, I walked in and there was an AM radio show playing in the store about AA. Another time, again, dare prayer, one of my students was in line behind me.
Coincidences? Maybe. I like to believe that by pausing and uttering those words, I was having the smallest amount of willingness and surrender, even if they were irreverent and contemptuous. I think had I not uttered those words outside the store, it wouldn't have matter if there was an entire marching band, with 'don't do it banners' and horns singing the praises of AA, carrying Bill W. himself on their shoulders...I would not have seen anything but exactly what I wanted to see, which was a big bottle of relief with the label vodka on the side.
Every time it has worked. I find peace and serenity every time I am willing. Each time my faith has grown. I am not quite as irreverent and contempuous as I used to be. I have gotten to the point that I trust that it might work with every area of my life. I have tried it with the big stuff...financial insecurity, my divorce, love, my children, losing jobs, finding a new place to live and yes, even on Crazy Me. I have seen it work time and time again.
So, here I am, writing about it, trying to talk myself into the fact that everything is just fine, in this moment. For today I will trust that my HP has my back!!
What do ya know...I feel better!!