Nothing stops me in my tracks faster than when I tell my sponsor my next big plan and she asks me that question...What's your motivation Melissa? If I'm honest with her and more importantly with myself, my answer usually turns out to be that I am trying to somehow manipulate the person or situation to get my way, to make someone see my point of view, or seething in my resentment and self righteous anger, feel the need punish someone for some perceived wrong doing.
Today I don't want to have to manipulate to get love and acceptance. Honestly, I am finding that I really don't have to. Not every relationship looks the way I want them to for sure, but I have faith in the universe's plan for me. If it's really meant to be, no tricks are required on my part. If it's not, something just as beautiful will cross my path, that I have to be open and willing to receive. Side note...it's not gonna kill me to be alone! I want my happiness to radiate from within, not need someone to justify my worth and existence.
Today I know that everyone does not have to see or understand my vision. My reality is just that...my reality. I can allow others to experience their dream. One of my favorite sayings, do I want to be right or do I want to be happy? Is arguing here worth losing my serenity? My ex and I will not always agree on what is best for our kids. Rude people that cross my path do not need to be convinced of their error in social graces. My tables do not require my judgement. None of these thoughts have need to occupy my mind. I can listen to other's points of view, taking what I like and leaving the rest.
The beautiful thing to me about resentments is that I always have a part in their creation. In some way, my pride and ego have been smashed, I'm not getting what I think I deserve, I am holding on to something that was never mine in the first place, I am not getting my way. When I see my part, accept the situation just as it is and let go of the resentment, I let go of the need I think I have to get even or make someone know just how much they hurt me.
When I pause today, I get to the point that I remember my motivation is to bring peace and happiness to those around me and find peace and happiness within myself. If what I want to do in the moment doesn't achieve those goals, I have to say, thanks for sharing crazy Melissa, but we won't be doing that today.